Going on a first date can be so overwhelming. On one hand, you are trying to impress her without coming on too strong or worse. And on the other hand, you are trying to looking desperate
As a result, lots of guys wind up making the same mistakes. Let’s face it: It’s a first date. You don’t get a lot of space to mess things up when there’s no established relationship.
Here are some first date tips to help you avoid common mistakes so you can ace your date and get you a second date.
7 first date tips that can get you a second.
1. Make It a Two-Way Conversation
It’s cool to tell her about yourself, but dominating the conversation by going on about your life will make you look narcissistic.
What will impress her even more than learning about your accomplishments is seeing that you’re genuinely interested in hearing about her. If you’re not sure where to start, her job is usually a good bet.
Women love knowing that you take their work and ambitions seriously. Ask her about what made her go into her career, and what she plans or wants to accomplish. Find out why it’s important to her.
2. Keep Your Hands to Yourself
On a first date, touch should be limited and only natural, friendly, and warm, not sexual. It’s fine to take her hand to help her out of your car, or put your hand on her lower back to lead her through a crowded restaurant. But don’t drape your arm around her neck and hold her close the entire time.
3. Don’t Be Cheap
The easiest way to save money without looking cheap is to plan the date yourself, and only take her to places where you know you can afford the dessert menu.
You can get creative and go on a hiking trip, it is more fun than dinner and doesn’t cost anything. Just don’t advertise that you’re taking her hiking because you don’t want to pay for food.
4. Go for Non-Offensive Jokes
Joking around with your date is a great way to break the ice. Women like funny guys. Humor is an excellent tool. But, don’t go overboard. Keep the humor light. Find out something you both agree on.
5. Don’t Be a Schlub
Take heart in the fact that you don’t have to work nearly as hard as she does to prepare for a date. But that doesn’t mean you can skip the basics: showering, shaving, and spritzing on cologne. Wear a simple-yet-polished outfit like dark jeans, a blazer, and loafers, and you’ll look put-together without seeming like you’re trying too hard.
6. Be Polite With The Compliment
Don’t start off with some comment on how great her legs look in that skirt, she’s not going to be into it. She will be immediately put off. Comments on appearance have to be given with finesse or you’ll start the evening on the wrong note.
You can start with “You have the most amazing smile” or “You look really nice tonight.” Everyone likes to know they are appreciated, but you have to be self-aware enough to offer the right phrasing.
7. Skip the Money Talk
You should probably not talk about money, whether you’re gloating about your big bank account, or lamenting how little you have. Just cross money off the topic list completely and casually pay for the date like a gentleman